Common Sex Coaching Myths
Seeking help for sex therapy or sex coaching can be confusing. It's not always easy to know which one is right for you. Let's sort this out and then clear up some rumors you may have heard about coaching, and get started on your way to better sex.
Therapy vs. Coaching
Coaching and therapy both support your sexual well-being while differing in focus and approach.
Licensed mental health professionals, such as an LMFT and Certified Sex Therapist (CST), help you address the deeper emotional, psychological, and intimacy issues that impact your sexual wellness. Delving into trauma, past experiences, and mental health issues like depression and anxiety allows you to heal and channel your newly found sense of self into all aspects of your life, including resolving relationship difficulties and enhancing your sex life.
Coaching is less about introspection and more about taking action to build confidence, learn about sexual functions, and focus on practical skills and techniques that enhance sex for you. Sessions create empowerment and foster positive sexual experiences. Coaching may also benefit sexual orientation struggles and insecurity about your sexual desires.
Both therapy and coaching are fantastic for single or partnered people. Your relationship status is only part of the equation as you take those first courageous steps toward a healthier, more fulfilling, intimate life.
Clearing Up Misconceptions About Sex Coaching
As a certified sex therapist with over a decade of experience, I've encountered numerous myths about sex coaching. Your decision to embrace vulnerability and seek support for sexual issues is a sign of strength and willingness to embrace self-care for all aspects of your sexual health. Sometimes, these common myths get in the way of making an informed decision about sex coaching. It's time to dissolve some common misconceptions!
"Sex Coaching Is Only for People with Serious Problems"
Sex coaching is for everyone. You may seek to enhance your current relationship with your sexual partner or want to explore your sexuality. For something so integral to our well-being, most of us don’t learn much in school, our family or society about pleasure. Also, learning about effective communication techniques can help you better express your needs with your partner.
"Sessions Involve Physical Contact or Intimate Demonstrations"
This false statement is the biggest sex coaching myth. Let me be clear: sex coaching is talking only. Coaches and clients never engage in physical contact or demonstrations. Instead, we have professional conversations in a therapeutic setting, offering education, exercises to try at home, and strategies for improving communication and intimacy. Many coaches, like me, offer secure and private online sessions for talking from the privacy of your own home.
"Only Partnered Couples Need Sex Coaching"
No matter your relationship status, sex coaching is for singles and couples. Sessions can also be individual or as couples. You may choose coaching sessions for personal growth or work as a couple to enhance sexual intimacy and find more sexual pleasure.
There's no "typical" client profile - everyone's journey is unique.
"You Need to Have a Partner to Benefit"
The beauty of sex coaching for single people is exploring desires and preparing for future relationships. This is a time for self-discovery, healing, and understanding your libido. The skills learned in sex coaching, from better communication to increased self-awareness, benefit all aspects of life.
"Talking About Sex Will Be Embarrassing"
Finding the right sex therapist or sex coach will reduce any embarrassing feelings. I provide compassion, expertise, and guidance in a judgment-free environment where you can discuss your concerns openly. Many clients initially feel nervous but quickly discover that our sessions feel like speaking with a knowledgeable, professional friend who maintains appropriate boundaries while offering expert guidance.
"Sex Coaching Is Just About Physical Technique, Not Intimacy"
There's more to coaching than discussing the physical aspects of sex. We will explore emotional intimacy, communication strategies, body image, past experiences, cultural influences, and relationship dynamics. The goal is to help you develop a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your sexuality and intimate partnerships.
"Sex Coaching Is Too Expensive"
Think of your sessions as an investment in your physical and emotional happiness. There are various coaching options to fit your goals and finances. Also, coaching sessions are rarely infinite! Your newfound skills and insights often provide lasting value beyond the coaching period, making it a worthwhile investment.
"I Should Be Able to Figure This Out on My Own"
Comprehensive sex education or relationship skills are not typically taught, leaving us with questions and uncertainty. Instead of going to a general practitioner for support, working with a sex coach is going to a specialist, and no referral is needed. Society has falsely taught us that there is shame surrounding sexual health and betterment, and coaching helps overcome many damaging societal narratives with an expert's help.
"It's Better to Read Self-Help Books About How to Orgasm"
Self-help resources can be valuable but impersonal. Sex coaching offers personalized guidance that meets your needs and goals in a manner that aligns with your beliefs, experiences, and learning style. As a coach, I can help you process emotions, address underlying concerns, and adapt strategies to your unique circumstances in ways that books cannot.
You can learn more about sex coaching here: https://www.cindymichel.com/sex-coaching-los-angeles
Moving Forward Beyond These Sex Coaching Myths
If you're considering sex coaching, know that you're taking a brave step toward better understanding yourself and your needs. Every session is confidential, professional, and tailored to your specific goals and comfort level.
Remember, seeking support for your sexual well-being is just as valid as seeking help for any other aspect of your health. Whether you're dealing with specific concerns or want to enhance your intimate life, sex coaching provides a safe, professional space for exploration and growth.
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Ready to learn more? Feel free to reach out for a consultation where we can discuss your specific needs and how sex coaching might benefit you.
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Other Therapy Services By Cindy Michel, M.A., LMFT, CST
You may work with me in my Los Angeles office or anywhere in the world for coaching via videoconferencing. I see clients for sex therapy in California, New Mexico, and Florida. I also offer EMDR Therapy, Sexual Trauma Therapy, and Somatic Therapy.
Please reach out if you want to learn more about my other services and explore if coaching or therapy is right for you.