Understand Sex and Therapy: Benefits, Process, and FAQ’s from a Sex Therapist in Los Angeles

Understanding Sex and Therapy: What Happens During Sex Therapy

Sexual health is a personal and often embarrassing aspect of overall well-being, and it is not uncommon for individuals and couples to face challenges in this area. 

Whether it's stress or anxiety around lack of sexual desire, difficulties with arousal, addiction, trauma, sexual orientation or gender identity issues, painful intercourse, or body image and self-esteem issues, sex therapy can provide valuable support and guidance.

Sex therapy is a specific branch of psychotherapy devoted to supporting positive sexual health and satisfaction. The goal of improving sex and therapy is to enhance intimacy and address any underlying psychological or emotional health factors.

What Happens During Sex Therapy? 

During a session, I work patiently and supportively with individuals or couples to better their sexual health. Together, we create a supportive and educational environment to discuss your sexual concerns without judgment. This often involves talk therapy to explore thoughts, feelings, and experiences related to lovemaking. I may ask questions about your sexual history, desires, preferences, and any difficulties you face, including past sexual trauma.

The First Few Appointments - Setting Goals and Expectations

In the first appointment of sex therapy counseling, we will establish healthy goals and expectations for your journey in a sex-positive setting. This first cooperative session often focuses on getting to know and understand each other, and you may have many questions for me. I am happy to help us discover a plan and pace that makes you feel safe. We may talk about your mental health, sexual history, and any physical concerns that may contribute to sexual hardships.

Your goals are your own and may evolve over time. Perhaps you would like to improve communication and intimacy, address sexual dysfunction, or explore sexual satisfaction. Together, we can create a roadmap with realistic expectations.

As Sex Therapy Progresses

As sex therapy progresses, we will continue sessions to work on sexual concerns, either alone or with your sexual partner. The frequency and duration of therapy sessions may vary as your journey continues. During these sessions, we will further explore sexual function, desires, and challenges. There may be opportunities for education, including strategies and techniques to improve your sexual relations.

The progress made in sex therapy will be unique to you. And, there is evidence to indicate that individuals participating in therapy often report significant improvement in sexual health, enjoyment of sexual encounters, and lower levels of sexual dysfunction.

Exercises and Homework During Sex Therapy

Joining the experiences of sex and therapy often involves creative exercises and fun homework assignments to be explored between sessions. These techniques are designed to help you practice and apply the skills and strategies we discuss.

You may have communication exercises to improve intimacy and understanding between partners, mindfulness practices to enhance sexual awareness and pleasure, and specific sexual activities to explore and expand sexuality. Your boundaries and comforts are honored in these exercises.

Ensuring a Safe and Professional Environment

My priority is creating a safe and professional environment for you to grow. This includes ensuring that the therapy space is physically and emotionally comfortable, confidential, and free from judgment.

You are always welcome to conduct your session in person in Los Angeles, or virtually to suit your availability and comfort preferences.

I adhere to professional codes of conduct and ethical guidelines, am committed to creating a therapeutic relationship based on trust and respect, and honor confidentiality.

What Sex Therapists Don't Do

It's important to clarify what sex therapy does not entail to alleviate any misunderstandings. Sex therapists do not engage in physical contact during therapy sessions. This specialized therapy focuses on talking and providing guidance and support about relationship issues.

Who Should Consider Sex Therapy?

Sexuality is an intricate component of your physical, emotional, and mental self. The struggle with sexual challenges will affect other aspects of your life and can become burdensome. Sex therapy can be beneficial for individuals or couples who are facing sexual problems or experiencing relationship troubles. 

Choosing to begin sex therapy can feel overwhelming and intimidating - and remember that you deserve to have a fulfilling life, including your sexuality. Sex therapy provides a safe support system to take that first step and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - Sex and Therapy

Are sex therapists registered or certified? 

When choosing a sex therapist, consider their credentials and specializations. I have completed specialized training and have relevant certifications from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). I am a Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and I stay updated with the latest research and developments in this specific type of therapy to remain a qualified sex therapist. 

How long does sex therapy last?

The duration of sex therapy counseling is unique and tailored to your specific needs and aspirations. For some, a few sessions may suffice, while others may find longer-term therapy beneficial. Progress is continuously evaluated, and therapy concludes when goals are reached, ensuring you feel supported throughout the journey.

How do I know if sex therapy is working?

The effectiveness of sex therapy can be measured in various ways. Individuals or couples may observe improvements in their sexual satisfaction, communication, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. It's important to discuss therapy outcomes and progress with the therapist and regularly reassess goals to ensure therapy is meeting your needs.

Can single people go to sex therapy?

Yes! Helping to boost your feelings and struggles about sex and therapy are a match. You can develop confidence, address past experiences, and give you tools and guidance to have an amazing sex life. You may also discover that sex coaching works well for you, too.

I invite you to request a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation to learn if therapy or coaching suits you. 

My physical office is in Los Angeles, and I also offer secure and confidential telehealth sessions in California, New Mexico, and Florida.